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The Wired Ape presentsIssue 01 · The Belonging IssueNovember 11, 2026

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Issue 01Belonging
FamilyThe BrainBelongingRites of PassageBoundariesGriefFriendshipRitualFamilyThe BrainBelongingRites of PassageBoundariesGriefFriendshipRitual
Nobody tells you when you’ve grown up
Ritual OS · Why Ritual

Nobody tells you when you’ve grown up

For most of history, a ceremony told you when childhood was over. Now most of us cross that line alone, and many of us aren’t sure we’ve crossed it at all.

“In some respects yes, in some respects no”

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01Why humans need ritualsRitual OSWhy Ritual · Sarah · 6 MIN
02Communication games for families that get everyone talkingKithmarkFamily · Vish · 5 MIN
03Stepping back from family: when and how to do it safelyKithmarkBoundaries · Sarah · 5 MIN
04Dealing with in-laws without losing yourselfKithmarkFamily · Vish · 5 MIN
05How to repair a friendship after a fightKithmarkFriendship · Sarah · 6 MIN
06Grief rituals from around the world you can do at homeRitual OSLoss and Remembrance · Vish · 6 MIN
07Morning ritual ideas from five traditions, in under 10 minutesRitual OSDaily Rituals · Sarah · 6 MIN
08An evening ritual for nights you can't switch offRitual OSDaily Rituals · Vish · 6 MIN
09Small rituals for couples, from world traditionsRitual OSRituals Together · Sarah · 6 MIN
10Secular rituals: how to practice if you don't believeRitual OSWhy Ritual · Vish · 6 MIN
11Ancestral rituals: how to find the rituals of your own heritageRitual OSRoots and Heritage · Sarah · 5 MIN
12Games for couples that build closenessKithmarkCouples · Vish · 5 MIN
13Setting boundaries with parents as an adultKithmarkBoundaries · Sarah · 5 MIN
14How to talk to difficult family membersKithmarkFamily · Vish · 5 MIN
15You are what you share: the human relationship with foodBothRituals Together · Vish · 8 MIN
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